Denpasar, (NS7) – Traditional marriage in Bali is one of the ordinances of marriage or marriage in Indonesia recognized by the government, religious rules, norms and people. In this page, we review a little about tidying up the traditional way of marriage balinese mores, because of course every tribe and belief has procedures that are not synchronized.
The difference created a form based on the way the wedding ceremony was also not in sync that is closely related to the beliefs, traditions of a tribe, culture and social class according to the citizens who held the wedding or wedding.
Including also in the island of the Gods of Bali itself which has a number of cultures and traditions that sometimes are not in harmony between one place with another, so tidy up the way the wedding istiadat was also different from one place to another.
In essence, traditional traditional marriage in Bali or known as using "pawiwahan" is the ratification of the marriage of two human beings of different types between a man and a woman, in the form of religious ceremonies, performing sacred promises to marry and legally legalizing the marriage bond, religious and social norms.
The marriage norm in Bali is very closely cooperating with the local religious order, ordinances and culture. So that almost the ordinance of marriage on the island of the Gods of Bali, especially those who are Hindus are the same from the law of belief, but sometimes in the application there are some differences from the norms and culture in each loka or region.
Traditional wedding ordinances in Bali consist based on several stages that must be passed by the bride and groom. After that the customary ceremony was held, accompanied by the use of written documents including the endorsement of the leader of the traditional wedding ceremony. After the whole process was passed then the couple was legitimate to be a legitimate husband and wife in the eyes of trust, rules &citizens.
The purpose of marriage (pawiwahan) or generic marriage, whether it is done with Balinese mores ceremony or other ceremonies, of course, about the hope of getting happiness because of the unity of a love that is committed to living life until the end of life and both it is difficult and sad.
Then be able to get offspring or the next generation who are devoted, as a result will bring blessings to the family and many people and expected the life and happiness of the human being is more complete and also enjoy sexual satisfaction that is not contrary to the foundation of religion and dharma. Traditional Wedding Ordinances or Pawiwahan in Bali
Bali itself adheres to the patrilineal system of marriage or correlation, where the community regulates the offspring or native rights of heirs based on the offspring of the father or man, while the woman is released according to her family. Although in today's residents poly also marriages are drawn based on the lineage of mother or matrillineal.
Marriage is latif and sacred through the process of sacred religious ceremonies in Bali, so that for citizens who want to perform the wedding ceremony or marriage, will prepare everything according to the beginning including the selection of a good day, so that the wedding ceremony runs smoothly and after living the bond of husband and wife, able to live a new life in sync with expectations.
Here are the traditional wedding ordinances on the island of the Gods of Bali in Hindu belief;
- Determine a good day
Citizens who will perform this wedding ceremony determine the day is well in sync with the Hindu calendar, the good day is chosen starting based on the groom coming to nyedek (inform) and the day of the wedding according to the day agreed by both parties of the family. The selection of a good day is believed to suggest the smoothness of performing the ceremony earlier and also their lives become husband and wife when married later.
In traditional Balinese wedding norms, the process of ngekeb ceremony is to prepare the bride-to-be, such as doing scrubs in the body of ingredients such as turmeric rice, memories and peacock leaves that have been finely pounded. This preparation is to welcome the arrival of the future groom the next day. After entering the room, the bride-to-be can not leave the room again until the bridegroom and his family come to pick up. Ngekeb ceremony is aimed in addition to preparing mentally the bride and groom & pray to Ida Sang Hyang Widi so that the happiness of birth and mind is given.
- Bride-to-be Pick up
As is the tradition of the usual norms and commonly performed at the residence of the male family, so that the groom's family picks up the bride-to-be according to the bride-to-be. When pick up, the bride-to-be is ready to use traditional Balinese clothing covered in a thin yellow cloth based on head to toe, the cloth is worn containing the philosophy that the bride-to-be is ready to leave her single life, burying her past for the process of welcoming a new life, namely home life.
- Mungkah Lawang
In the process of the next wedding ceremony is the program mungkah lawang (open the door). The envoy according to the bride-to-be came to knock on the door of the bride-to-be's room, at this time also accompanied by Balinese parties who hinted at the arrival of the man, asking that the door be opened. And then the bride-to-be takes to the house of the groom's residence without being visited by the female family, using the way carried and carried on a stretcher.
- Mesegeh Agung
Before entering the yard where the bridegroom lives, the 2 brides face the procession of mesegeh Agung. The yellow cloth covering the body of the bride will be opened by the future mother-in-law in exchange for money, a sign of welcoming the new world & burying all the past, & to be a welcome expression to the bride.
- Medengen-dengenan (kalaan)
In the ceremony of the norm of marriage in Bali, this procession will be led by a leader of trust such as monks or stakeholders according to using the ordinances and culture of each region, this ceremony aims to cleanse themselves to the 2 brides accompanied by a number of processies such as Touching The Feet in Sepetan, Buying and Selling between brides and grooms, Stabbing Tikeh Dadakan performed by the groom becomes a symbol of lingga & yoni power & Finally, deciding on the thread stretched on the trunk of the dadap tree that analogizes to the 2 brides ready to enter a new global using family life.
- Mewidhi Widana Ceremony
The procession of the wedding ceremony that must be passed is Mewidhi Widana, in the current procession led by someone rahib atapun sulinggih, the sound of genta accompanying this procession to perfect the wedding ceremony, cleaning themselves both brides after the previous ceremonies. At this time both of them go to the temple or pura merajan in the yard of the house, informing of the presence of a new family to the ancestors, asking permission and blessing so that the family life of both is perpetuated, part and have good offspring. At that time both brides wear the bride's oversized clothes even able to even with ordinary norm clothes according to ability.
- Table ceremony (Ma Pejati)
This is the procession in the wedding ceremony in Bali, at this time also synonymous with "ngabe tipat pillow" or carrying a pillow tipat some regions refer to it as a "meserah" ceremony. Currently the woman who follows the husband comes home to the female family accompanied by the grand family, relatives and neighbors of the male family. Perform mepamit ceremonies in the yard or berjan, mepamit (please leave) niskala to the ancestors of the female family. At the time of the arrival of the male family brought the main traditional food jua panganan is tipat and pillow as a symbol of the strength of Lingga & Yoni or purusa pradana following other foods such as red & white steamed sticky rice, sumping, apem and others.